Sunday, July 9, 2017

Weeping for our children


Within a decade or so, a very special population will cease to exist, and may never reappear again.  This is the generation of older people who weep and mourn over the fact that their children have rejected the Faith they tried so hard to hand on them.  They took their children to Mass every week, they prayed with them daily, they took them to Religious Ed, or put them in Catholic schools.  They loved them, raised them right, and now they see their adult children leaving the Church, not practicing the Faith, and either not joining any church, or going to a church that teaches less hard doctrine than what the Church, who is the fullness of Truth, does.    They go to a church that “makes them feel good”, and “speaks to them.”   These older suffering souls say “I spoke to you; I loved you, why have you rejected me?"  Then, getting no satisfactory answer, they weep and cry as they pray their Daily Rosary and Divine Mercy Chaplet, and/or go to Daily Mass if they are able, and pray desperately for the eternal salvation of their offspring.   

We stated in a recent post that 12% of the entire US population regards him or herself as a “former Catholic”.   Obviously, some of that population may no longer have one or more parents around.  Let’s say only half of the original parents of that 12% are still around.  That would mean 6% of the overall population is the suffering parents of those former Catholics.  That is still a very significant chunk of the overall population!

I say this population will cease to exist because the next round of older people will be people, who if they had children, will not be mourning and weeping, at least for this.  They will not mourn and weep over this because they did not try to pass on the Faith, and/or the Faith doesn’t mean much to them, and/or they stopped practicing the Faith themselves.

If you are reading this, and you are one of those suffering souls mentioned in the first paragraph above, know the Lord weeps with you.  Your tears, united with the suffering Christ, will water the soil that will lead to fruit somewhere, ideally for your children, but if not, somewhere else.  Your suffering will not be in vain, I promise.

And furthermore, precious generation, do not blame yourself.  It is a tendency for people in this predicament to be very hard on themselves.  They wonder over and over again what they could have differently that would have led to their children not rejecting the Faith.  Granted, there may be some valid reasons why they feel as they do.  Maybe they indeed could have done some things better or differently.  But who of us can say we have often done anything perfectly?  And here are a few more things to consider:

1)      Jesus Christ, the perfect man, could not win everyone over.   He could teach well, and even perform miracles, but still, even he could not get everyone to believe him.  If he could not do it, we should not expect ourselves to be able to.

2)      It is each person’s responsibility ultimately to choose the Faith for themselves.  Nobody, even Saints, chose the Faith solely because of their parents influence.   When we stand before the judgment seat, each of us will have to account for why we chose, or did not choose, to accept and live the Faith.   We will not be able to blame our parents if we rejected the Faith.  God gives each person to discern the truth for him or herself. God gives everyone the gift of reason, and the gift of Divine Revelation.  This is a gift given to each person independent of their upbringing.  A less than perfect upbringing in the Faith and other matters does not diminish this gift.  Each of us is called to be stewards of the gifts we have been given, and we will be held accountable for them.

3)      The Catholic Faith has stood the test of time, and has been probed in its depth for over 2,000 years.  The riches and depths of the Faith are inexhaustible.  No one is capable enough of knowing it all.  It is great to have answers, but it is unreasonable to expect one person or couple to have all the answers, all the time.   Yes, you should know where to look if you do not, and yes, if you did not take any time to learn the Faith, and/or did not obtain the resources available to answer questions you were not sure on, then yes, perhaps, you will be held accountable for these things.   However, I am confident most of you took at least some time, and had a few resources on hand.   This should have been enough for your children.

4)      The Catholic Church teaches timeless truths.  It is not fashionable to live and believe in Catholic faith and morals today.  The world emphasizes feelings, instant gratification, and a relaxation of moral norms.  So people will go to places, churches or otherwise, that make them feel good, affirm them “as they are”, instead of the One True Church that possesses and preaches the fullness of Truth.   These realities of the world are very difficult ones to fight against.  The fact that you apparently “lost” to them is nothing you should beat yourself up over.  Jesus Christ, remember,  seemingly “lost” to the societal values of his day, too.  He taught people the values of life, truth, and love, yet it made them uncomfortable, and so, they went after him, and eventually killed him.  Yet, we know how that turned out.  The battle is never over.  There is always hope!  Let that hope guide you, not your disappointment.

You are a special generation, and the world will suffer when you are no longer around.  Please do not forget about us when you are in heaven enjoying the rewards of your life on Earth, lived in fidelity to Christ and His Church.   We will need your continued intercession if we stand a chance of getting into heaven ourselves.

For the rest of us, let us take a moment and think of all these people, these poor souls praying their Rosaries and Divine Mercy Chaplets, and other prayers, often in places like nursing homes where they are forgotten by even their family members.   As we go about our daily business, and attend to our health, our finances, our career, seemingly everything except God, let us remember these people who are, in my opinion, holding up the world.  And let us ask ourselves, “Why does it hurt them so much?  Why is it causing them so much pain?  What am I rejecting by not going to Church? Maybe I should take a minute and look again at this Faith that my godly parents tried to pass on to me.”

Saint Joseph, solace of the wretched, pray for us.



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